"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful
We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." Einstein
Human Experience ...
As human beings we undergo moral, cognitive, ego, interpersonal, emotional
and spiritual changes and dilemmas constantly. Sometimes they build up in us gradually - sometimes with a jolt.. Not only
that but they are all inter-related and the issues and feelings surrounding them can be really tough to get to grips with.
And that`s not all.
We all have varying degrees of self awareness, and even within each individual , you know for yourself, that the level
of self awareness, the clarity you have, changes from day to day depending on what is demanding your attention at any one
much more in healthy and balanced control of our lives we feel when we are coming from a resourceful and centered state of
being. We recognise when we are - and the decisions and actions we take at such times are always far more fruitful ...
and well just feel right.
However, and here`s the tough bit - such a state of being is not something that the majority of us can bring about
at will. The likelihood of being in such a resourceful state seems to be a matter of chance, rather than choice ...
The Cause of a Personal Tipping Point
Many people I've spoken to who
have made one or more drastic, beneficial lifestyle changes found the motivation to do so because of an emotionally-charged
moment that endured in their minds for years to follow.
I call this powerful moment a moment of clarity. It is during
this brief moment that the entire implications of your habits - long term, short term, emotional, physical, and mental implications
- suddenly become crystal clear. Imagine you've been walking around with horrible eye-sight for years and then a doctor finally
puts on your first pair of glasses.
You can finally see the world around you with infinitely better clarity. When you
experience this effect through a moment of clarity, it is the emotional impact of this clarity, and the lasting impact that
it leaves on you, that pushes you past your tipping point. In his classic book "Psycho-Cybernetics", Dr. Maxwell
Maltz tells a similar story of a lifelong smoker who finally made the decision to quit.
He did so because of a powerful
moment of clarity that permanently changed his perspective. Living in a rural area, most errands were done on foot. A particular
errand he needed to do was 5 miles away. After having walked 3 out of the 5 miles, he realized he left his cigarettes at home,
so without thinking, he immediately spun around and began walking back to go get them.
At that instant, he had his moment
of clarity. He finally saw, plainly and clearly, that tobacco had such a strong grip on his thoughts and behavior that he
was instantly willing to go 6 miles out of his way (3 miles home and 3 miles back to where he was standing) just to be able
to have them close by. He felt a mixture of anger and frustration for letting something have such control over him.
then on, he never lost the drive to quit smoking. Constructing your own moment of clarity is incredibly difficult. In fact,
the reason a moment of clarity is so powerful, is because it hits your emotions very hard. As the saying goes: "People
may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel."
powerful emotional experience can endure for years, which can be channeled for positive use in the case of a moment of clarity.
However, it's incredibly difficult to plan out something to appeal to your emotions so powerfully.
When you see a commercial
of a happy family sitting around the table, advertisers are trying to bring a warm, happy feeling to you. An advertiser will
then tie that in to whatever product they are selling, such as a tomato sauce that the whole family enjoys. The key to a highly
effective advertisement is the use of an image or scene that creates a strong enough emotional response to convince you to
buy the product or service. Note: Appealing to logic has also been shown to work, but emotional appeals have a more lasting
From the point of view of personal motivation many of us are trapped by the emotion of fear ... fear of the unknown, fear
of stepping outside of our `comfort zone` fear of breaking away from what feels like deeply held believes about who we are
and what we are capable of. A distortion of the fear response has a stultefying effect on our thinking: it is as if
our mind becomes our own worse enemy and immediately upon us deciding there is something different we want to do it speeds
off at the speed of light, so fast we don`t notice, and throws back at us all sorts of reasons why we shouldn`t.
and awareness of how this process unconsciously controls us - despite not working in our best interests, indeed holding us
back from really living to the full - it ends up wearing us down. BUT, when we get to understand how and why that kicks
in we get to reclaim our personal core power.